“It takes courage to grow up and become who you really are” – E.E. Cummings
The true path towards finding happiness can only be found if you know who you are. It is common to get tangled up in what people expect us to be, or even the ‘ideal’ made-up version of ourselves. Knowing and understanding your most authentic self is extremely important for your self-awareness, and improvement.
In fact, this level of self-awareness is also crucial to make important life decisions related to education, career, relationships, and every integral part of your future.
The reality is, most of don’t know who we are even after years into adulthood. Because we keep discovering new facets of ourselves, and we are ever-evolving creatures.
However, you can always try to discover your inner self. Once you understand yourself better, you will be able to make a truly positive on yourself and on the ones around you.
Start with the most simple yet profound exercise; observation. Sit in silence every day for some time, and think of your day. Analyze your actions and acknowledge all the feelings you went through.
Sometimes, there are so many layers and dimensions to us that we don’t even know about because we’re too engrossed in this world. Find a quiet place and get in touch with the person inside, your heart, your soul, and your subconscious.
You will find out so much about yourself if you practice this regularly. You will learn about what is present and what is missing, the good and the bad in your life (and in you); this exercise is extremely important for your growth.
Expectations vs. Reality
Let’s face it, everyone expects something from us. Sometimes, it’s what our parents wish for us to be. Other times, it is what our friends imagine us like. These expectations can often make the true self hazy and confused. We start to take on the roles projected on us, rather than the ones we would choose ourselves.
Don’t try to be the person they want you to be. Instead, ask yourself what your ideal version of yourself looks like? What are your core values and beliefs? Where do you wish to see yourself? Who do you want to be? These are the answers you need to attain from yourself.
Find out what you’re good at
A very important aspect of knowing yourself better is finding out your strengths and weaknesses. Of course, you can’t just know this one so be prepared to take something up and give up on it if it doesn’t work.
Keep trying out different thingsand you will find out what clicks and what does not. Essentially, you need to find where your passion and talent lie. It could even be multiple things.
What is happiness to you?
Lastly, one way to truly know who you are and what you strive for is by asking yourself what lights you up and brings joy to your life. You have to think about the moments when you felt the happiest because they represent a huge chunk of who you really are.
Whatever gives you ultimate happiness in life would be the best driving force for you. This is an important question as it also helps you find what you need in order to be happy. Is it having a partner or family? Do you feel the most happy while helping others? Is it a specific hobby or career path? Just figure out your happy spots and try to achieve them; you will feel complete, and truly in touch with your true self.